Here We Go Again - Grief … Holidays, Christmas & Celebrations …

12/11/2015

Here we go again ... the words that can trigger reactions around the world ... 'Holidays' ... 'Christmas'

A time of celebration for many. A time of pain for those grieving for the 'happy family syndrome', a situation that doesn't exist for everyone … and for those grieving the loss of a loved one.

My immediate family I love and cherish, and while we bring out the best and worst in each other we do celebrations well. My birth family is a mixture and sadly there are many separations.

At this time of year I would love to say to everyone: “let's let go of the differences and come together to acknowledge we are family.” Through it all it would be wonderful for love and respect to shine through.

This is not the case, and as I have discovered over many years, I am not alone with this experience.

It is with trepidation that this year I am willing to acknowledge well in advance that 'the happy family' is not going to happen beyond my immediate family.

So it's time to plan ahead to embrace the loved ones that are happy for the connection and friends who bring joy to my heart.

I hope you too can embrace loved ones and friends who light up your life.

Jude xoxoxo

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4 Comments

mollie eaton

12/11/2015 06:10:17 am

I would like to know more on how to handle the Happy Family Sendrome. I have suffered from this for 15 yrs and it gets harder. People just don't understand.

Ramona

16/11/2015 01:55:04 pm

Someone said if you can't change the circumstances then change yourself. I have learned that I have to make myself happy before I can affect my surroundings and people around me for the better. If I am happy then no one around me can avoid but be happy. If they're not then I don't let that bother me. If I can bring happiness to another then I am happy so my goal is for me to be happy and content during the holidays them I have to make others happy.

Judy

22/11/2015 11:46:27 am

May happiness shine through for you Ramona and shine out to all those around you. Jude xoxoxo

Judy

12/11/2015 12:53:42 pm

Mollie, In my own experience I have found acceptance of me just as I am an important step. Whilst I would like a large extended happy family feeling I know it is not going to happen. It has been hard however I have had to let go of expectations. I write as it helps me move through the pain so I can focus on family and friends that I have a strong connection with. I have found ways to love and care for myself that resonate for me and I practice them daily. Jude xoxoxo

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