Suddenly ... Death was in my face ... What Now?

The end of a life on earth as we know it.

Unimaginable that this is happening. Everything… everything I know… everything I believe is in my face and suddenly I don't know anymore. I don't believe anything. 

I'm just sitting in the experience of death.
 
Whatever your belief system, however those beliefs resonate for you, suddenly this overwhelming experience is in your face.
 
Whatever you thought you were living… whatever direction you thought you were going… it all changes when suddenly death is in your face.
 
Grief becomes a word that rears its head with each breath as you contemplate what death means when it actually becomes your reality.
 
Reality as you know it changes as you experience emotions you may have resisted all your life. Now these emotions jump out of nowhere and take you on the journey called grief.
 
In my experience embracing my feelings, embracing all the emotions without judgement was the way I found my way through.
 
It was hard. It was raw. It was devastating.  It was unfair. It was unbelievable. It was a dream. It was a nightmare. It was a roller coaster.
 
So I embraced it all. I wrote through the pain and found the love in my heart to keep living.
 
Now I am living a wonderful life where I share my experiences, share my words to offer love comfort and support to others as they embrace their own experience of grief.
 
Take a moment to sit quietly. Close your eyes… focus on your breathing. Observe your feelings and continue to focus on your breathing. Do this for as long as you like and when you are ready ask yourself the question: "what is the most important thing I can do for ME right now?" You will have the answer before you finish the question.
 
Can you tell me if this helps you?
 
Jude xoxoxo
20th August 2014

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Just letting you know that I have reviewed the price of my book to make it affordable for everyone who needs it. Price details for both paperback and ebook are on the website.

Jude xoxoxo

Yesterday was the funeral service for a musician friend of my husband.

We believe his death was suicide.

Yesterday I heard Robin Williams had died.

It looks like his death was another suicide.

The impact on my feelings has been phenomenal as I wonder why, where have we gone wrong, why is the world we live in the cause of so much suffering?

I met my husband’s friend Phil once at a band reunion 2 years ago. I was aware he had travelled a "dark road" in recent years however he radiated as he sang that night. I can visualise the chat I shared with him as we all enjoyed the music and friendship of years gone by. In that moment I experienced a gentle man and the essence of who he was.  Now I feel deeply saddened that the darkness took over from the radiance I could see.

Robin Williams I have never met face to face yet the radiance within him shone in every character he played in every movie he was in.

Here's my answer:

It's time we learn to feel. It's time we allow others to feel.  It's time to stop judging feelings. It's time to help ourselves feel. It's time to help others to feel.

Here is an example:

If a child falls over and scrapes the skin off their knee and you say, "Come on, you'll be alright… don’t cry…" Then you are teaching them it's not okay to feel their pain.

If you say "how do you feel?" You are giving them the chance to say "it really hurts".

You can then say "I know it hurts. It will get better."

You have given them permission to feel.
 
Often we do not want others to experience pain because we know how ‘bad’ it feels. Instinctively we want to fix it.

It's time to feel ...

Give yourself permission to feel.

Give others permission to feel ...

Create a space to feel ...

I am testing a new blog link from our www.positivesigns.com web site. It is at times like this I find that technology can be challenging.  :)

Change your perspective and you can change the colour of your day.   Jude xoxoxo
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